by Anita S. LaneThe 2008 Democratic presidential primary has brought front and center the issues of race and gender. To be honest, America has a sordid past with both, and it can be very difficult for Americans to confront these issues.
Personally, I don’t agree with Clinton’s finance committee member, Geraldine Ferraro’s comment that “If Obama were a white man, he wouldn’t be where he is today.” Obama is qualified to be president, and he has run an incredibly effective campaign.
At the same time, I believe that Obama’s supporters are delighted in the fact that this great, talented, visionary leader, is also a black man. I think his supporters—white and black—are thrilled by that. It in no way lessens the legitimacy of his candidacy— it just happens to be a plus for some supporters—just as Clinton’s gender just happens to be a plus for her supporters.
To be fair, I think what I’ve described is part of what Ferraro was attempting to convey—albeit rather poorly, and seemingly out of a lot of bitterness over the fact that Clinton is losing—and I give her credit for having the courage to stand behind her statement. Because I agree? No—but don’t we want individuals in our society to be able to say what they really mean?
Isn’t it better to know where a person is coming from, instead of naïvely believing that someone is “with” you because they spew politically correct statements, when inwardly they despise and abhor you?
Just ask any African American who grow up in the segregated south and lived to see the advent of desegregation. One of the biggest challenges for these individuals was coming to terms with the fact that they no longer knew who was “for” them and who was “against” them. As my grandmother—who grew up in segregated Arkansas and later moved North—used to say, “At least we knew where they stood, because they’d just say it.”
My point is two-fold. We should all seek to be honest with one another in as diplomatic, respectful and courteous manner as possible. Secondly, we should allow individuals to be honest with us, and we can respond in one of three ways: 1)accept their comment and suspend judgment; 2) Accept their comment and agree with their comment; or 3) Accept their comment and agree to disagree.
Unfortunately, I think many of us employ a fourth response, and that is to not accept the other person’s comment and to demand that they recant—or to use the current lingo—reject and denounce, their own remarks. But is such a demand fair?
And may I go as far as to say that we as African Americans have been given a great measure of liberty when it comes to saying what we feel because of our history and the deplorable treatment we’ve received in this country. However, I don’t believe we allow Caucasians that same liberty.
Perhaps we need to recreate the college campus—the laboratory for ideas, philosophy and honest exchange among America’s future leaders. I can recall many lively, heated and hotly contested informal debates with my college classmates on the subjects of religion, race and politics. While difficult, such discourses were enlightening and invigorating.
As a result of our discourse, we were wiser, stronger and held a greater respect for one another because we had come to know one another better. Our conversations eroded the ignorance and made way for greater understanding—and genuine friendships.
My grandmother also used to say that there is a grain of truth in every lie. Well if there is truth in a lie, there is bound to be a grain of truth in one individual’s perspective spoken from their personal paradigm.
So, is Geraldine Ferraro a racist? I assume not. Was she being honest? Probably so. Should she have been so honest? Well, that depends on if we want an America where we can be honest with one another, pinpoint our prejudices, and attempt to heal the racial and gender divides in this country—or if we want to remain a country in silent inner turmoil—“politically correct” on the outside, while deeply suspicious on the inside, refusing the treatment of talk therapy for fear of opening up old wounds—but there’s really no other alternative. In the words of Dr. Phil, “How’s that working for you?” Our answer: “Not well.”
This campaign season has opened up a window of opportunity for America. Let’s talk.




